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another challenging encounter with the exbf today... I'm really getting frustrated around this. I try and try to be as nice to him as possible, and then I see him and he acts like I killed his dog.

not that he's always that way, he's been better mostly, but kinda tends to go back and forth.

am I being unreasonable?

I know it takes time to get over being disappointed over a breakup, I've been there myself. but he's got to realize, on some level at least, it really wasn't good for quite some time - for me, or (despite it providing him with a nice place to live, which he nonetheless complained about) for him either.

I just don't know what to do about it. so I left. disengaging from him and the situation was all i could think of to do.

he says he "misses us." but what he misses was living in my apartment, eating for free, and the *good* times. he needs to remember that it wasn't just good times, not by a long shot. and he also needs to realize his contributions to making it fall apart!

and it's not like he's all alone. he has *three* girlfriends!

oh well. I guess all I can do is be patient, and go on trying to be as nice as possible, and just disengage when it isn't productive.
7 smooches or Gimme Some Love!
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djmermaid From: djmermaid Date: December 28th, 2005 09:06 pm (UTC) (Link)
Yes, I am trying to make it possible for us to just be friends. Sometimes it seems like it's going to work, and other times he gets oddly oversensitive about it. I just hope he can move on soon!

Thanks for the comment, and can't wait to see you in less than a month!!! : D
idiva From: idiva Date: December 28th, 2005 06:17 am (UTC) (Link)
I think you're taking the aware approach -- that's wonderful. I think you're a sane and balanced woman, from what I've seen of you during the time I've known you.

Still kinda sucks though, doesn't it? The break-up, I mean. Not you're being sane and balanced ;-). I empathize with your pain sweetie and hope that the time it takes to dull is short.
djmermaid From: djmermaid Date: December 28th, 2005 09:07 pm (UTC) (Link)
Thanks, I appreciate the comment and the feedback.

I'll see you this weekend! Woot! ; )
From: cinnamon_grrrl Date: December 28th, 2005 08:47 am (UTC) (Link)
Sometimes people have selective memories after breakups.
It sounds like you're handling it well. Hope it gets better soon.
djmermaid From: djmermaid Date: December 28th, 2005 09:08 pm (UTC) (Link)
Thanks, doll. I appreciate it! Hopefully it will improve with time, like you said.

Hope the new year is good to you!
mythos_amante From: mythos_amante Date: December 28th, 2005 02:33 pm (UTC) (Link)
I luff you, M! That really sucks, the way he's acting. Like CinnGrrrl said, people DO sometimes have way selective memories after a breakup. And as sweet as he could be, memory wasn't always his best trait.
djmermaid From: djmermaid Date: December 28th, 2005 09:09 pm (UTC) (Link)
Thanks, sweetie. Good point! And i appreciate the encouragement.

Love the hat! See you SOON!
7 smooches or Gimme Some Love!